DEAR DEIDRE: EACH time I have an argument with my wife, she calls the police to take me away from our house.
My daughter has now witnessed this three times, and I’m worried how it will affect her. I’m 38, my wife is 36 and our girls is four.
After six years together, our marriage broke down because I found out she was having an affair.
I completely lost it and started breaking furniture, which is why she called the police. But I’d never hurt her or our child.
The police didn’t charge me, and brought me back after a few days.
Since then we’ve been trying to make our relationship work, but we’re still arguing a lot.
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Now, if she doesn’t like what I say, she calls the police and says she’s scared. What should I do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: It does seem that your relationship is very unhealthy and, yes, this isn’t good for your daughter.
If your wife is frightened when you argue, it means you have anger-management issues, and you need to deal with these before someone gets hurt and you get a criminal record.
My support pack Managing Anger will show you where to get help from.
You and your wife could benefit from relationship counselling.
Contact Tavistock Relationships (tavistockrelationships.org, 020 7380 1960).
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